"BE WITH SINGING BIRDS TO HEAL , HEAR THEM SING."

"BE WITH SINGING BIRDS TO HEAL,  HEAR THEM SING."

ANSWER ME THIS...

WOULD YOU ALLOW STRANGERS IN THE BATHROOM WHEN YOU ARE BATHING?

WOULD YOU?

I THINK NOT.

THAT SPACE IS AS PRIVATE AS YOUR SORROW, YOUR PAIN, HAPPINESS,

HOPE,  ANXIETY,  YOUR LACK OF WILL, YOUR POWERFUL DEED OF THE DAY

OF EVERY DAY...THE PROCRASTINATION...THE DESTRUCTION OF THE LIGHT,

THE OPENING OF THE WINDOW NOW COMPLETELY SHUT TO GET SOME FRESH AIR,

TO BREATH, TO LIVE.

LET ME TELL YOU AND I HOPE IT WOULD BE THE LAST TIME BECAUSE I AM LEAVING,

GOING AWAY, FAR, FAR AWAY...

SO LISTEN AND LISTEN CAREFULLY...

"THERE ARE TWO KINDS OF PEOPLE IN THE WORLD

AVOID BOTH OF THEM."     Shopenhaur

DO NOT DISCUSS ANY OF YOUR DEEPLY FELT TRAUMAS, DISAPPOINTMENTS, 

OR ANYTHING ELSE WHICH IS BOTHERING YOU, GIVING YOU NO SOLACE, NO

 SOLUTION

WITH ANY ONE...ANY ONE...YOU HEAR?

NO DISCUSSIONS WITH ANY ONE...AND THAT ANY ONE IS ALL PEOPLE...ALL PEOPLE...

YOU HEAR?

YOUR PROJECT WHICH IS YOUR LIFE...REMAINING LIFE IS NOT AND CAN'T BE

UNDER DISCUSSION OR EXPLANATION...IT'S TO BE DONE ALONE, QUIETLY, DISCRETELY

IN YOUR OWN PRIVACY...NEVER TO BE TALKED ABOUT,  NEVER TO BE QUESTIONED,

ONLY WRITTEN ALL ALONE BY YOURSELF...

JUST PUT IT ON  THE PAPER.

DO YOU HAVE A PEN?

DO YOU A PENCIL?

DO YOU HAVE CHARCOAL?

SO,  JUST PUT IT ON THAT PIECE OF PAPER...SCRIBBLE IT ON...

SEE, ALL YOU NEEDED WAS CHARCOAL, NO ONE ELSE, NO HUMAN BEING SHOULD BE 

INVOLVED IN YOUR PROJECT.

YOU AND BLESSINGS FROM SOMEWHERE HIDDEDN...

WHAT'S THE PROBLEM?

A PROBLEM?

SCRIBBLING ON THOSE NOTEBOOKS,  SCRIBBLE ? IS THAT A PROBLEM NOW?

YOU ARE HAVING A PROBLEM AFTER ALL THOSE

 YEARS?

ALL THOSE YEARS OF SCRIBBLING ON THIOSE NOTEBOOKS, THE ONES YOU

 BOUGHT

FOR A DOLLAR EACH DAY AND FILLED IT,  AND NOW YOU HAVE HUNDREDS OF THEM

 SCARING YOU...

YOU ARE SO SCARED OF YOUR OWN PROJECT, YOUR LIFE...YES, YOUR PROJECT

IS YOUR LIFE SWEETHEART AND YOU ARE SO SCARED OF THAT...

SO SCARED THAT YOU HAVE HIDDEN YOUR LIFE IN BAGS, IN BASKETS, HIDDEN AWAY

 FROM YOUR SIGHT, YOU WON'T OPEN THOSE NOTE BOOKS TO SEE WHAT'S IN THEM.

WHY NOT?

ARE YOU SCARED OF YOUR OWN SCRIBBLE?

 YOUR LIFE?

ARE YOU?

SAY, YES.  IN-FACT YOU ARE...

YOU ARE SCARED OF YOUR OWN LIFE

THAS WHY YOU WON'T LOOK AT THE WORDS YOU HAD WRITTEN ON THOSE NOTE

 BOOKS FOR YEARS.

CAN I ASK YOU A QUESTION?

CAN I?

WHAT SCARES YOU?

YES, WHAT SCARES YOU? AND WHAT HAS BEEN SCARING YOU FOR SO LONG?

ALL YOUR LIFE SOMETHING HAS SCARED YOU...

INDEED...

LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING...

DEAL WITH IT...

JUST OPEN THE TRUNK AND GO AWAY SOME WHERE VERY FAR AND LOOK AT YOUR

 PROJECT, GO AWAY FROM YOUR EVERY DAY MUNDANE ATMOSPHERE ALL ALONE BY

 YOUR SELF AND DON'T COME BACK TILL YOU HAVE READ EVERY WORD THAT YOU

 HAVE WRITEN IN YOUR NOTE BOOKS.

YOU MIGHT BE SURPRISED...

YOU MIGHT FIND SOME SINGING BIRDS IN THERE...

SILENTLY SITTING THERE...

THEY ARE NOT DEAD YET...

LET THEM SING...

LET THEM FLY...

LET THE SINGING BIRDS SING.

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ABANDONEMENT, IS THAT WHAT YOU FEEL?

WHEN THEY DIDN'T SHARE THEIR HAPPINESS WITH YOU...

YES, THEY DIDN'T

AND?

(silence)

AND?

FELT ABANDONED

THAT'S NOT A NEGATIVE FEELING

THE HAPPY MOMENTS OF THEIR LIVES

YES, THAT'S HOW IT FELT .

ACTUALLY IT'S A HEALTHY FEELING

YOUR LOVED ONES DIDN'T INCLUDE YOU DURING THE HAPPY MOMENTS OF THEIR

 LIVES...

YES, THATS HOW IT FELT.

FELT BEING LEFT OUT

YES, YOU WERE LEFT OUT

YOU REMINDED THEM OF THEIR PAINFUL MOMENTS BECAUSE YOU SHARED THEIR

 PAIN WITH THEM AND PEOPLE FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE...

OH! PEOPLE FEEL UN-COMFORTABLE IF SOME ONE IS HELPING THEM GET RID OF THEIR

 PAIN?

NO ONE CAN GET RID OF THE PAIN, BUT THEY TRY VERY HARD AND IF THAT MOMENT

 OF PAIN COMES BACK, THEY RESENT IT AND  OF THE PERSON WHO MADE THEM THINK OF

 IT.

IT'S REALLY TWISTED

YES, IT IS, ONE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH REAL SITUATIONS, SOME TIMES IT'S BETTER TO DO A LITTLE BIT BUT NOT TOO MUCH, TOO MUCH CONCERN, AFFECTION AND LOVE SCARES PEOPLE BECAUSE THEY THEMSELVES ARE NOT CAPABLE OF THOSE FEELINGS AND THEY RESENT THE PERSON WHO HAS IT IN ABUNDENCE....ACTUALLY BY NOT INCLUDING YOU IN THEIR HAPPY MOMENTS IS  BECAUSE OF THEIR FEAR...

FEAR?

YES, FEAR...

THEY WANT TO COMPETE WITH YOU BUT THEY CAN'T SO THEY AVOID YOU.

ANSWER FOR THAT IS JUST A POLITE, RESPECTFUL RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM AND THE

 RELATIONSHIP HAS TO BE NOT SO DEEP...

SUPERFICIAL, YOU MEAN? 

NOT REALLY SUPERFICIAL EITHER BUT  NOT SO DEEP AT THE EXPENSE OF YOUR OWN PRIORITIES. YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO LOVE YOUR SELF A BIT MORE...A LOT MORE BECAUSE IT SEEMS LIKE THAT YOU LOVE OTHERS MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOURSELF

ISN'T THAT CONSIDERED SELFISH?

DON'T WORRY SO MUCH ABOUT OTHERS SELFISHNESS..

OTHERS...?

WHY WORRY SO MUCH ABOUT OTHERS?

BECAUSE...

BECAUSE?

BECAUSE OF LOVE

LOVE FOR WHOM ?

LOVE, LOVE FOR THE LOVED ONES...

LOVED ONES?

YES...THE PEOPLE WE LOVE, WE CALLED THEM LOVED ONES...ARE YOU SURPRISED?

YOU CAN'T BE...YOU ARE THE THERAPIST

YES, THATS WHY THE ONE'S YOU CALL TO SHARE EVERYTHING WITH THEM BECAUSE UNDER THE GUISE OF D LOVED ONES, THEY ARE PRETTY DISTANT WITH YOU. THEY CARE FOR YOU BUT THEY DON'T SHARE EVERYTHING WITH YOU IF,  EVERYTHING IS NOT CONVENIENT FOR THEM,  BUT YOU WANT TO SHARE EVERYTHING WITH THEM BEAUSE YOU PUT THEM ABOVE YOU. YOU NEED TO CHOOSE YOUR OWN PRIORITIES AND AFER THAT TAKE CARE OF OTHERS.

AND THAT IS IF YOU HAVE ANY TIME LEFT. IT'S ALSO ABOUT EMOTIONAL AND  FINANCIAL SUPPORT.  IF YOU SPEND  ALL YOUR MONEY, YOUR EMOTIONS, YOUR TIME ON YOUR SO CALLED, "LOVED ONES." YOU WILL HAVE NOTHING LEFT FOR YOURSELF. YOU WILL BE BANKRUPT AND WHO IS GOING TO TAKE CARE OF YOU? WHO? NOT YOUR LOVED ONES...THAT'S FOR SURE. THEY WOULD HAVE A LOVELY RHETORIC, " WE WISH WE COULD BUT SO SORRY, WE CAN'T."  IF YOU COMPLAIN,   THIS IS WHAT THEY WOULD SAY, "HI, SO SORRY, NOTHING WE CAN DO TO HELP YOU, WE HAVE OUR OWN PROBLEMS AND WORRIES." AND IF YOU TRY TO REMIND THEM, "LISTEN, I HELPED YOU IN THE PAST, I HELPED YOU IN EVERY WHICH WAY, EMOTIONALLY, FINANCIALLY, EVERY WHICH WAY I COLD."

THEY WOULD SAY, " WE NEVER ASKED FOR YOUR HELP.  WHATEVER YOU DID WAS BECAUSE OF YOUR OWN FREE WILL.  AND WE ACCEPTED YOUR KINDNESS BECAUSE WE DIDN'T WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS. YOU SHOULD HAVE NEVER OFFERED ANYTHING PRECIOUS...TO YOU TO...

 ANY ONE. IF WE REALIZED THAT YOU WERE UNDER ANY PRESSURE AND IT WAS DEPLETING YOU IN SOME WAYS TO BE SO GENEROUS, WE WOULD HAVE NEVER EVER ACCEPTED ANYTHING. WE CARE FOR YOU, WE DIDN'T WANT TO CREATE ANY KIND OF STRESS FOR YOU."

SEE HOW DIPLOMATIC THEY ARE...

THEY WILL ALWAYS PUT IT ON YOU. AND RIGHTFULLY SO. IT'S YOU WHO OFFERED AND THEY TOOK AND THEY TOOK GLADLY. LEARN FROM THEM, IF NOT FROM ME. THEY ARE

YOUR RELATIONS, LEARN FROM  THEM,  THE ONES YOU LOVE OR LOVED IN THE PAST TILL IT WAS TOO LATE...

BUT LEARN FROM THEM, THEIR FAKE POLITE NATURE TO ACCEPT NICE GESTURES FROM OTHERS IF THINGS ARE OFFERED TO THEM WILLINGLY BY OTHERS, THEY DON'T HAVE TO RETURN THE FAVOR IF THEY DIDN'T WANT...

SEE THATS WHERE YOUR MISTAKES LIED...YOU WANTED THEIR ATTENTION, THEIR FONDNESS FOR YOU, THEIR LOVE AND YOU THOUGHT BY GIVING THEM EVERYTHING

VOLUNTARILY, THEY WOULD THINK ABOUT IT AND RETURN SOME OF THEIR AFFECTION TOWARDS YOU BUT THEIR RELATIONSHIP TOWARDS YOU WAS DIFFERENT.

THEY WERE NOT SO LONELY...

THEY HAD OTHER OTHER THINGS TO DO

THEY HAD PRIORITIES

HOW TO TO SPEND THEIR THEIR MONEY, HOW TO SPEND THEIR TIME, HOW TO 

  PART WITH THEIR LOVE...NO, THEY WERE VERY CLEAR ABOUT THEIR LIFE. THEY WERE TAKING CARE OF THEIR LIVES AND YOU WERE TAKING CARE OF THEM. .NOW WHATEVER TIME IS LEFT,

 SPEND IT ON YOUR SELF NOW, WHATEVER TIME IS LEFT, SPEND IT ON

YOURSELF, SPEND YOUR MONEY ON YOU, SPEND SOME KINDNESS ON YOURSELF, LOVE YOUR SELF FOR A CHANGE AND SEE HOW YOU LIKE IT...OCCUPY YOUR TIME WITH THINGS YOU ENJOY WITHOUT FEELING

GUILTY THAT YOU ARE WASTING TIME. LEISURE TIME IS NOT WASTING TIME. IT'S A MOMENT OF HEALTHY, ENJOYABLE TIME. THAT'S ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IN THE BEGINNING TO HEAL YOUR SELF FROM THE LONG

IGNORANT JOURNEY OF THE PAST. YOU CAN STILL BE NICE, POLITE, DIPLOMATIC, PERSON BUT TOTALLY BE INVOLVED IN YOUR OWN HEALING.