NAPKIN DIARY PART 3 2022

NAPIN DIARY PART 3 2022

YEH WAQAT BE GHUZAR HI JAI GHA.

Don't be sad.

It's a trial to be dealt with.

With sadness...lots of sadness.

Don't worry, sadness is not depression.

SAKOON...GHAM

Trauma and peace are step brothers

who don't get along...

Trauma lasts for a long time

Peace, if it comes, doesn't last

Another trauma replace it.

HAPPINESS

Happiness is not the goal

Sakkoon is.

What is sakoon?

Peace of mind

Do you have it?

What?

Do you have it?

Sakoon or peace of mind?

None

How come?

Don't ask again and again

You already know it...

Don't provoke..

I don't like people who provoke...

It's surprising that some get pleasure out of someone else's pain.

Do you have pain?

I thought you don't have peace of mind...

Who are you?

You know..

No, I don't know you...

But you ask personal questions...

Asking if you have pain is not personal...

I need to leave, I don't feel well...

You never feel well, as long as I have known you,

You have been saying, "I have to leave, I don't feel well."

Yes, because I am surrounded by people like you

 and I must instantly remove myself from 

Your ilk. 

JANNAT

What can people do to me?

Nothing. Absolutely nothing.

I have my Jannat with me.

Jannat doesn't have,

Despair

Grief

Sorrow

Disadvantage

Loss

Helplessness...

Me being close to that spiritual power brings

 me total sakoon/peace/comfort of the soul.

FIGHT

Fight with life

Move forward

Never give up

Life is a trial to be dealt with

Without sadness

Don't be sad...

Or, be sad...

Feel your loss...

Then move on

Yes, Move on with your loss.

This time shall also pass...

That's the beauty and sadness of time...

Time passes...

Time is a passerby...

The one you want to come back...

The one you were attracted to...

You want that passerby to come back

At least once...

But alas! that handsome passrby has gone away for good....

THE DAYS OF LOSS

Chanalize your loss

Despair is absence of hope

Gloom is feeling of darkness

Desolate, feeling of loneliness/emptiness

Desolate cry of the soul leads to danger...

Matter and spirit, take care of both...

All these feelings represent that your

Sadma/greif sadma/loss of love/sadness/helplessness/gloom

hasn't been shared...

GRIEF

Grief is the strongest feeling of loss of a beloved and if

it's not properly shared becomes a source of danger.

Grief, overcomes everything.

7 STAGES OF GRIEF

Shock and denial

Pain and guilt

Blame

Regret

Anger and bargaining(unrealistic)

Depression  and reflective thought

Loneliness

.........

Upward turn

Reconstruction and working through

Productive vs unproductive

Acceptance and hope.

Become friends of your problems

Positive interpretation.

Human mind is more inclined towards negative.

Mind, cognitive, replace bad thought to good and positive.

Be friends with your problem

The more you want to get out of the problem,

The stronger it will become.

Acceptance doesn't mean moving forward.

Type of grief

Death of a beloved...

Create a purpose to go through grief and loss to bear...

What purpose?

What kind of purpose?

Any purpose that you can think of...

Can't think of any...?

CAUSES OF SADNESS

Wrong expectations

People and their values

Attachment with people of opposite values.

Wrong decisions

Blaming oneself

Sabotaging yourself

Be in this place like a traveller...

Enjoy a very short trip...?

DHUNIA/THE WORLD

Dhunia ko sur pur charrow ghey to wo

app ke sur pur chrr kur nacheing ghey...

Don't let any one too close to you.

Don't reveal deep thoughts about yourself to any one

Be discrete

Don't reveal any thoughts about others to any one.

Be polite and excuse your self

Don't fight, don't argue, don't explain, 

don't expect explanations

Just remove yourself from them quietly.

ISLAMIC PHILOSOPHY

There is a vast gulf between our life style

and Islamic philosophy and thats the guilt we carry with us

without changing our ways and still calling ourselves muslims.

Thats one reason there is no contentment...

Jaidat aur rizk nasib se milta hey.

It's your fate you are fighting with....

To have the least amount of comfort

Do not attach your self with people who are not sincere.

People who make excuses which you know are just excuses...

There is no reason that you will feel this way if they cared for you.

Some people just don't care, it's their nature

Don't be with them if you can help it...

Do not hurt yourself un-necessarily.

You have to deal with real hurt.

Save your strength

save your time

Save your emotions

Save your love

Save your knowledge

Save your struggle

Save your day....

Don't be with people of fake emotions...

There is lot of grace in it for you.

CEASED TO EXIST

And when there is silence on the other end...

I know he has ceased to exist.

Everything else is a lie...

People keep saying, "He is with you, he is with you."

"Where is he? Where is he? they say, he is with me

But, where is he? He is with me...but where is he?"

'Why can't I see him? Why can't I talk to him?

Why doesn't he call any more?"